Dealing with myself Pt. 1

"Here I am, Once again, I've fallen into pieces"

I've got a problem. Let's get to the bottom of it.

MY PROBLEM - SOCIAL COMPARISON

The behavior of constantly comparing things or oneself to others is often referred to as "social comparison." Social comparison is a natural human tendency in which individuals evaluate themselves and their abilities by comparing them to others. This can involve comparing aspects such as appearance, achievements, possessions, or social status with those of others. Social comparison can occur both consciously and unconsciously and can impact self-esteem, motivation, and overall well-being.

Cause of my "social comparing" problem

I have a fear of being abandoned, and struggle with feeling worthy of acceptance. This causes me to judge myself and others.

TRYING TO FIND THE SOLUTION TO MY PROBLEM

I asked AI...

(According to Chat GPT)

Being authentic and true to oneself is important for personal growth and fulfillment. It involves being genuine, honest, and comfortable with who you are, without trying to imitate others or pretend to be someone you're not. Here are some tips on how to be yourself without feeling superior to others:

1. Practice Self-Acceptance: Embrace your strengths and weaknesses. Understand that everyone has their unique qualities and flaws. Accepting yourself as you are can help you be more genuine in your interactions with others.

2. Cultivate Empathy: Try to understand others' perspectives and feelings. Empathy allows you to connect with people on a deeper level and appreciate their experiences, which can help you avoid feelings of superiority.

3. Be Mindful: Practice mindfulness to become more aware of your thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness can help you recognize any negative or judgmental thoughts that might make you feel superior and allow you to let go of them.

4. Develop Humility: Humility involves recognizing your own worth without seeking to prove yourself to others. It means acknowledging that everyone is valuable, regardless of their status, achievements, or background.

5. Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your personal growth and development. Set goals that are meaningful to you and work on becoming the best version of yourself.

6. Celebrate Differences: Appreciate the diversity of people around you. Everyone has something unique to offer, and recognizing and celebrating these differences can help you avoid feeling superior.

7. Practice Gratitude: Cultivate gratitude for the people and experiences in your life. Gratitude can foster a sense of humility and help you appreciate the contributions of others.

8. Be Open-Minded: Stay open to new ideas, perspectives, and experiences. Being open-minded can help you appreciate the richness of human diversity and prevent feelings of superiority.

9. Avoid Judgment: Refrain from judging others based on appearances, beliefs, or lifestyles. Instead, approach people with an open heart and a non-judgmental attitude.

10. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences: Spend time with people who uplift and inspire you. Positive influences can encourage you to be your authentic self and discourage feelings of superiority.

I ASKED MY FRIENDS THIS QUESTION:

Reply from Lukáš Hanč:

He brings up an interesting argument. Thinking you are better than everyone because you would rather be no one else is not very well thought through. And what constitutes someone being better than someone else? Perhaps the following question would be more suggestive - "if you had the choice of being anybody, who would you be?"

Reply from Payton Hatch:

I like what Payton says here - The human condition lends itself to feeling more important, rather than "better" than everyone else

Reply from Kaleb Rubin:

Essentially a shortened version of what Chat GPT said. Thanks, Kaleb :)

Concluding remarks

No big deal. Just another human tendency to overwrite. I don't want to live in a brain where I compare myself to others. I want to be free of thoughts of superiority and inferiority. I pledge to be more mindful of and promote healthy relationships with myself and others.